Is it possible to be spiritual but not religious?

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Is it possible to be spiritual but not religious?

dec-1There has been lots of talk on the news about separateness recently, often related to religion.  So I would like to pose a question: Is it possible to be spiritual rather than religious?

Some years ago when I was teaching at an Australian university in Malaysia, I asked a Canadian colleague of mine if she was a religious person. At that stage of my life I was still struggling with the innate notion that there is a divine presence in our life, although not necessarily what I was brought up with – which in my case was Catholicism.

To my surprise, my colleague answered that she considered herself ‘spiritual’ but ‘not religious’.

Since then I have had plenty of time to think about my own experiences and studies that have helped me answer this question for myself.

What is the difference between being spiritual and being religious?

  1. Spiritual in most cases refers to the original spiritual experience, something we have experienced which does not fit in within our ‘normal’ experiences or what the society tells us is ‘normal’; e.g. in most cases, ‘normal’ refers to a rigid, materialistic point of view which understands very little beyond the needs of our body and our basic ego (me and mine, my family).

nov-3This is usually expansive and gives an experience (that word again) of breaking from our previous limitations, putting us in touch with the oneness of Creation. This comes from within, not from without, from the inner focus, not the outer focus.

William James, an American philosopher, calls this ‘the original religious experience’ or the first-hand experience of God.

If the spiritual teacher has enough impact, charisma and connection to the divine, or limitless, dimension (Shakti in Hindu terminology, Gnosis/Holy Wisdom in Gnostic terminology, Holy Spirit in Orthodox Christianity), they create followers who, in turn, after his or her death will try to preserve the feeling of the experience through a series of teachings.

  1. Unfortunately, when this happens a dogma (a rigid set of prescribed rules) can never-fearbe developed which kills the freedom, expansiveness and impact of the original experience. What is left are fossilised parchments of ‘dos’ and don’ts’ with very little spiritual impact. This can become a bit like asking a bureaucrat to translate a sublime poem into a form for sick leave.

When this particular set of ‘dos’ and ‘don’ts’ becomes a mainstream event it is called a religion. James called religion a second-hand’ experience.

The followers obey the ‘dos’ and ‘don’ts’, and listen to the passed-over teachings but they do not have access to the original spiritual experience. They only listen to the stories of people in the past who have had the first-hand (or spiritual) experience.

Mainstreaming of the original experience into a set of rigid teachings and belief encourages us to focus on something outside of ourselves, usually some inspiring religious figure, such as Jesus, Buddha, Krishna, angels, saints, and so on.

In some ways (and allow me to be a little naughty here) the original spiritual experience is like listening to your favourite singer because of their depth and originality, while religion is listening to that same singer after they have got a deal with a major recording company and suddenly sound like some boy band!

In other words, spirituality refers to an original experience.

Religion is all the build-up after that.  All the ‘mixing’, all the rules, the customs, the rituals.

me-and-the-universeThe million-dollar question: Is it possible to stay within the original spiritual  experience without falling into a new dogma/religion?

In my own experience and, as far as I know,  in the experience of many readers here, the spiritual often comes for us outside of the religion with which we have been brought up. It can come either through some forms of yoga, Buddhism or Gnostic teachings which ask us to stay within.

This is why I love mediation so much – it is one of the means of getting in touch with the original spiritual experience. One great Yogi once famously said: ‘God lives within you as you!’

enochThat is also why I like the Gnostics. They were persecuted in the early centuries of Christianity because they did not believe they needed an institution to tell them how to be one with God.  Gnosis, after all, is the secret knowledge of the inner Self, of our own divine potential.

The Gospel of Philip says, ‘Be like Christ, not a Gospel of MMChristian’. This translates into, ‘Think, act like Christ (or any other great being). He wanted you to be like him, not to worship him.’

This, by the way, applies to all religions not only Christianity. For example, Buddha wanted us to meditate not to worship his stature or follow complex rituals, etc.

A drawing by my beautofu friend Dr Maya Ranganathan

A drawing by my beautiful friend Dr Maya Ranganathan

Note here: some people can and do connect to their divine potential through worship.

In Hinduism they are called bakhtas/bakhtis – so in an essence: do whatever works for you as long as it creates connectivity for you and allows you to experience the divine (whatever or whoever it is for you).

Personally, I was very frustrated with my original religion The Jerusalem Diary Joanna Kujawawhen I wrote ‘Jerusalem Diary: Searching for the Tomb and House of Jesus’.  I felt that I was being treated like a child and was not given any tools to deal with life-issues as they presented themselves to me.

I also felt that traditional religions were controlling us by fear (‘fear and obey’) rather than teaching us how to live a good life.

Yet, that does not mean that converting to another religion solves the problem as each religion has its dogmas.  I know, for example  Buddhist who converted to Christainity because she was ‘sick of all the rules’ in the Buddhist tradition in which she was brought up!

Though the great spiritual figures, such as Jesus, such as Buddha and endless sages gave us examples how to live well, religions (mainstreaming) more or less lost the essence of those lives and, instead,  created a bureaucracy around them.

Being spiritual and working on ourselves are closely interwoven

One way to stay ‘spiritual’ without falling into a religion is to constantly grow. Ken Wilber, a spiritual thinker, said that awakening by itself is not enough. Indeed, it can lead to fundamentalism or worse, if it is not accompanied by personal growth.

And, I would add, being a spiritual person includes facing our own (personalised) demons – and we all know how challenging that can be (and yes, I do sometimes have tantrums because of it!).

dec-lastA person who Awakens but is still at a very basic level of personal growth (e.g. only me, my family, my tribe or my sexual orientation is loved by God) can cause more damage than good in the world.

Only a person, as Wilber says who has enough personal growth to acknowledge that are we all One, can be a trustworthy source of spirituality. He calls this ‘inter-spirituality’, as it embraces all and everything.

And, I believe, this must also include the Feminine Principle and all of Nature.

That is why, though traditional religions talk about peace and oneness, they often act through separateness. For example, my religion, my tribe, my faith – everyone else goes to hell.

all-races-and-planetSpirituality, on the other hand, is in oneness and goes beyond ethnic, religious and racial differences.

These are only some thoughts and reflections, and I do not expect you to agree with all, or even any, of it. But, as usual, I would love to hear from you, even if you disagree. It is our dialogue, not a dogma.

envelopePractical application or Workbook for the Goddess News Spiritual Blog:

  1. How does this sit with you? What is your experience of being spiritual (e.g having a feeling of oneness or togetherness or the need for it) but not religious?
  2. Did your spiritual experience come from within the religion you were brought up with or outside of it – OR, perhaps, outside of religion altogether? Why do you think this was so?
  3. What kind of spiritual practice do you use to keep uplifted?

This could be anything and everything and anything from meditating to traditional prayer, writing affirmations, being with nature, mindfulness, dancing, journaling, martial arts, service to others (including the environment and any volunteer work in all areas). Whatever works!

joanna kujawa the soulMy answers:

  1. I was brought up as a Catholic and tried very hard to be one but eventually the meaning of the teachings was not revealed to me through the thick veil of the dogma and rules. I found it in the Gnostic Gospels and Esoteric (Tantric) Hinduism.  I wrote about it in my rather rebellious book  ‘Jerusalem Diary: Searching for the House and Tomb of Jesus’ where I expressed my frustration with dogma.  I am too passionate of a seeker to be content with what was on offer in institutionalised religions.

 2. All of these methods have really helped me in my life.

  1. I started with journaling when I was reading The Artist’s Way. It’s author Julia Cameron advises in it to write down anything that comes to your mind without any judgement for 30 mins a day, ideally, but not necessarily, first thing in the morning. I found this extremely helpful, as I noticed patterns, repetitive negative thinking. This is when I moved to affirmations.

Affirmations are good for people like me who either overthink things or have a tendency to focus on worst-case scenarios. I have had several instances in my life where simply writing down positive affirmations changed the given situation completely. (They are too personal to reveal but worked!)

As always, I love connecting with you and love your comments. I am happy to dialogue and discuss so we do nto always have to agree. Comments allow us to express our points of view whether we agree or not. So please, do not be shy :).  And if you like what you read, please share it with others xxx

Sending Love, Joanna

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15 Responses to Is it possible to be spiritual but not religious?

  1. Julia says:

    Great! I loved this one.

    • sundari says:

      Thank you so much Julia! I was a little nervous about this one but also felt that I really wanted to say what, I believe, many people feel :).

  2. Ian Robinson says:

    Great insight Sundari! I very much enjoyed reading this blog… and found it truly relevant. Although I like to think of myself as a Christian, I have a great deal of trouble when I try and reconcile my inner beliefs with ‘organised religion’! I’ve wrestled with this dilemma for years – and have now come to the point where I believe all religions to be just political entities in different guises. So… your revelations have more than justifies my views. Thank you for sharing.
    (And I found the comment about your Jerusalem Diary experience very revealing too!)

    • sundari says:

      Thank you Ian. Good to have you back in this space. I missed your commments 🙂 I completely understand what you are saying about considering yourself a Christian but having difficulties with organised religions. To a degree I am not that different. I consider Jesus/Yeshua a great Teacher, a Messenger for humanity and I deeply love him. However, I, too cannot reconcile that love with the way he is being portrayed by mainstream Christian teachings and churches. I think that in that translation to an institution much was lost. Perhaps too much to make sense to a modern person. Also, thank you for understanding my intention behind ‘Jerusalem Dairy’. I was not just being critical for the sake of it. I was a frustrated seeker looking for answers. Thank you, again, for your insights Ian.

  3. Maria Brown says:

    Thank you for sharing, it is very interesting.

    I do not go to church often but being spiritual is related to religious beliefs that affects my human soul. I treat people fairly, and do not hold grudges. I let go of the negative and toxic things around me.

    Spreading love love love …..

    • sundari says:

      Thank you Maria – beautifully put :). And I agree being spiritual usually relates to some religion but at the same time is focused more on practice of love and acceptance and forgiveness – the essence of original teachings. Keep spreading love Maria – you are a beautiful being. xxx Thank you, again, for your beautiful and insightful comment. x

  4. Maya says:

    Thanks, Jo 🙂

  5. G. says:

    Oh how I’ve struggled with this one. I think religion is when historical references are made to spiritual things that are symbolic, so in essence that’s a fault. Of course it also comes down to how you mean the word “religion” cause in many aspects of my life I am both religious and spiritual. As far as organized religion I have yet to find one, though I am open!

    • sundari says:

      Well put G. Thank you for bringing it up. Yes, in a sense religions are unavoidable (or perhaps were unavoidable) in the past. We have to thank them for preserving the teachings. Yet, at the same time, they often politicised and corrupted the teachings. As another reader of this blog, Ian, said, they are ‘political institutions’. I also observed how easily grass roots spiritual movements turn into religions, buildings, ambitious leaders etc. And also a very good comment about symbolism – and symbols sometimes either lost their original meaning or changed… So, I guess, we have to be forgiving, stay focused on that original spiritual experience and grow with it. And we might even find a community. I am so happy that we can connect here with other like-minded people :). This connection and this blog are a source of great joy for me :). And Yes, it is vey important to be open. Being open is the direct opposite to a dogma.

  6. Hi Joanna, I really enjoyed this post too. Unfortunately religions always tend to develop around the needs of conservative, older, male believers and tend to almost demonise female sexuality as something dangerous, to be feared. Which is, I suppose exactly what these old men are feeling. Such a shame.

    • sundari says:

      Thank you Brad. Loved that comment and it also leads me to January Blog (soon to be born) which discusses just that. I think that if the shift is ever going to happen we have to forget the ‘fear and obey’ element of traditional religious movements.

    • G. says:

      I feel as though one could ask the same of sex. Is it a religious experience or spiritual? For me it’s both. The church would love to make it wrong, but I have always found the “dirtiness” of it, that more enticing. Doesn’t mean it’s not a religious experience. Mother Earth is dirty as well, but can wash so clean as well!

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